Literary Journal Submission Spreadsheet

I have been prepping myself for a fall semester full of submitting because I’m starting to understand that writing is 50% not actually writing. That is to say that submitting and the rest of the administration that goes into having a business in the arts is just as important as the writing itself.

So I am submitting. I am rejected. I am hopeful.

If you are floundering in the same shallow pool of self doubt, I am happy to offer up my google spreadsheet as a resource. Based on Clifford Garstang’s ranking of literary magazines, I created a spreadsheet to organize when each literary magazine is accepting submissions, the requested word count, and what I think of the work being published — if it’s like mine, or, as the case usually is, categorically not.

While I am mainly concerned with the Fiction submissions, I have included a tab with Clifford’s Nonfiction and Poetry rankings so it may be of service to my brothers from another form. Click through the image below for the google sheets.

This is not a completed form, so If you have some information to add to this list, please share it with me. If there is a column that might benefit all of us please let me know!

I hope this helps you on your path to publication, rocky though it may be. May the odds be ever in your favor!

Wanted: Father (No experience required)

Title: Father


This is one of two intern positions offered. Start date will be roughly nine months from now, but it may be sooner or later depending on the supervisor’s needs. There is no training period and no opportunity for advancement. There will be no pay, no benefits, and no vacation. Ever.

Good job for a self-starter, and someone who excels in stressful, time-sensitive situations, like heating up a bottle of milk while someone is scream-crying in your ear. 


You will be hired with one other female intern who will seem to immediately know more than you even though you started on the same day. Her particular set of skills will be required more often, and this will cause her to sleep less, eat more and resent you. You will change a lot of diapers to try and make her a more amiable coworker. This may or may not help.

The female intern will get most of the credit (and criticism) for the work you both do, and people will often dub your efforts “helping out.” Simply showing up to work will be constantly lauded and equally diminished. The accolades, while nice at first, will quickly become demeaning as the years wear on.

Prepare to be admonished by the same people for not spending enough time with the boss. There will be no way to win approval, but you will find it hard to resist trying.

Work Locations May Vary: 

You are welcome to work at sporting events, libraries, and grocery stores. Do not work in parks, public restrooms, roller rinks, or pools without the female intern. If the supervisor requires you to visit one of the latter, the police will likely get involved. We are working on this hang-up, just not very hard.

Responsibilities and Duties:

You (and the other intern) are expected to provide food (that the boss will vomit, refuse, or throw on the floor) clothes (that the boss will outgrow, vomit on, and throw on the floor) shelter (that the boss will destroy with vomit, crayons, and throwing things on the floor), and pay for college (where the boss will vomit, neglect class, and throw things on the floor). The vomiting and floor throwing may not subside until the boss is in his thirties. This is completely normal.

Skills and Qualifications:

Must have a basic knowledge of everything and be able to answer any fathomable question like why is the sky blue? Or where do whales sleep? As well as follow up questions such as Why? Why? Why?

You must know about sports, or at least feign an interest in sports. Coaching a sports team staffed with incompetent players is generally agreed to be one of this position’s highlights.

Mowing the lawn seems to be a big part of this job, though it is unclear how this tradition actually started. While the other intern can physically mow the lawn, it will not get done unless you do it. Usually on Saturdays. 

Tasks may change at boss’s discretion, whims, interests, and maturity. Prepare to purchase, learn about and store french horns, lizards, basketball hoops, easy bake ovens, snow/surf/skate boards, model airplanes, video games, drum-sets and other expensive gak. If no storage space is accessible you will be admonished by the boss(es) in the form of a lifetime of resentments.


Knowledge of power tools, electricity, lightning rods, science things, microwaves, car engines, building blocks, legos, dinosaurs and everything else. Flexibility in this area is a must, as management will request any variety of subjects without advanced notice.

Ability to make up stories about princesses, ogres, airplanes, freight trains, dinosaurs, frogs, toads, and puppies. Again, flexibility in this area is a must, as management will request any variety of subjects without advanced notice.

Free time to work on science fair projects, have long unintelligent conversations, shoot hoops in the driveway, and ride bikes in the cul-de-sac. Watching the boss jump off the diving board in an unremarkable way is required, and saying “wow, you’re amazing!” every time is preferred.

Update: Prepare to be judged in most parenting circles if you say the above, since we, as an industry, no longer praise our bosses. 

This job may require the following physical exertions

  • The ability to stoop, bend and drag a screaming person from a grocery store.
  • The ability to consistently work on four hours or less of sleep
  • The ability to lift objects more than 15/30/90 lbs regularly - this may include a limp or thrashing supervisor and whatever he won’t let go of.
  • The ability to withstand great bodily injury without crying like when tiny talon-like nails grasp a tuft of chest hair and yank.

Reports to:

You will report to one or five (or more) bosses of varying seniority. All of whom have different preferences, allergies, schools, hobbies, camps, shoe sizes, snacks, lunchboxes, teachers, friends, friends’ parents, activity schedules, sports teams, coaches, stuffed animals, stuffed animal names, responsibilities, chores, special blankets, lucky pants, toys, nap times, soaps, medications, names, body fluid and/or homework issues. A mix up of any of these could result in great bodily injury, or worse, severe tantrums.

Working conditions: 

We are exempt from OSHA standards so be alert and vigilant at all times. Beware the stray lego, we’ve lost a few interns that way. There will be toys and books on every square inch of floor/couch/table, bouncy chairs hanging in doorways, bicycles in the driveway, and childproof scissors in your bag of Doritos (Don’t ask. You don’t want to know). 

You will eat food that has been thrown on the ground because you just spent airport money on that sandwich before it was ripped from your hands. You will clean pacifiers with your tongue because your boss keeps dropping them on the filthy carpet of TSA security and then wails at the top of his lungs that it is no longer in his mouth. 

Someone else’s bodily fluids will almost constantly be on your skin and clothing and you won’t notice until after you’ve seen real people all day. 

Most interns find they’re so sleep deprived that the subpar conditions don’t really bother them, and their standards for personal cleanliness and attractiveness lower greatly after starting this job.


When you are old you will not be lonely. Unless you are. In which case you didn’t do a great job. Luckily your life will then be consumed with remembering those thirty or so years trying to figure out where you went wrong. That should take up some time.

Our interns will be awarded gifts three (or so) times a year. While we recognize that our male employees are unique individuals, gifts will only be chosen from one of the following categories. Golf. Ties. Grilling. No exceptions.

More notes: 

It is very difficult to excel in this position. Even highly successful interns will struggle to meet all the expectations of the boss and coworkers. Filling this position with all your hopes and dreams for a life you didn’t have is a surefire way to fail. 

It’s the worst job you’ll ever have in almost every quantifiable aspect, but as each year slips by you will find yourself nostalgic for moments that literally just passed.

Prepare to love someone more than you ever have, feel more joy than you could have ever imagined, and be absolutely adored.

Welcome aboard.

Today we wondered if you had a soul.

Today we wondered if you had a soul.

Not if you’re mapped out, we know enough to understand how much of you is predetermined. Your eyes, if they’ll be brown or green, your height, how likely you are to have dementia or doubled joints, or hair like your fathers that grows long out of your nose. Will you have to trim it like he does in the wet fog of the bathroom mirror, leaning to find the perfect reflection in the whir of the blades?

And how long will that take you to discover, baby? Will you be grown and married before your wife gracefully slips the trimmer under the Christmas tree? Will she advise you to open it the night before Christmas eve? Will she smile when you do and gently say I thought you could use something like this. 

You’ll kiss her of course, even if it’s not the best present you’ve ever received, but you’ll kiss her and say thank you because we’ve taught you that affection and respect are tantamount in any relationship that’s going to last.

But where is that part of you now, baby? The part that wants to kiss her, the part that decides to use the clippers in the bathroom that night. The part that stares at yourself in the mirror as she waits for you in the shower carrying that tiny sea monkey that will become your own child. Where is the part of you that part that wonders - What is a soul? And when will it arrive?

Where is the part of you that will exist inexplicably inside of a brain, that will write like your mom or know airplanes like your dad, or sing made up songs in the shower that no one else will hear? Where is that essence beyond biology, that sits in yourself when you’re trying to go to sleep, that dreams unknowable dreams that wake you up, the smell of them, the taste of them, still wafting around your senses? 

Will consciousness snap into place like touch or smell or sight? Or does each time you wake reset the fragile memory of time and space, as if you are each time born - conceived of consciousness over and over and over again.

Where is the part of you that draws silly faces in the fog of the bathroom mirror or laughs with her as her nipples smart in the shower, or holds her hair while she vomits in the sink. The part of you that worries bone throttling worries about cleft lips, and kidnappings, and children who scream and scream and scream.

Where is the part of you who buries yourself in her belly, hot water streaming down your closed eyes, matting your hair into a thin sheet. Where is the part that speaks muffled words against her wet skin, “Hey wonderful, this is me, your father speaking.”

The part of you who presses his cheek against her soft thin frame and under the din of the shower tries to hear your baby move.

“It’s too early, my love.” She strokes your temple with a finger as you look into the big brown tired eyes of this adoring woman that you feel so lucky to be in love with. Where is the part of you that feels lucky? 

Is it inside of me now? Washed warm in the wet down dark? Spinning circles in my belly? 

Do you have cheeks yet? 

Have you discovered spinning? 

How to Conceive a Baby

The first rule of trying to conceive a baby is to never talk about trying to conceive a baby. Babies hate it when you talk about them and they’ll make sure you know it too by refusing to do anything you want. Babies start out unruly like teenagers. Many people don’t know that.

The second thing you must do when trying to conceive is to analyze every hiccup or pain your body makes and then google it to see if it’s a sign of having already conceived. It is imperative that you read as many forums as possible on the topics of - does weird smelling flatulence mean I’m pregnant? or Inordinately thirsty - Am I with child? or A man I don’t know just asked me if I was pregnant, could pregnancy hormones have changed my pheromones but not my urine??

These forums will be populated by women who have the exact same questions and very few who have any real experience. Lots of comments will be I have the same question! My pee smelled like taco bell this morning. Is that a sign? Note: I live right next to a Taco Bell. You will learn almost nothing helpful except how to decode the secret pregnancy hieroglyphics like BFP (Big Effing Positive) HPK (Home Pregnancy Kit) O’d (Ovulated not orgasmed ) and DPO (Days Past Ovulation). Knowing these symbols is imperative as you navigate the deep internet for answers.

It will seem you are in some sort of purgatory with these women. Rejoice when one of your brethren gets yanked into this elusive pregnancy heaven. Rejoice when Dawnsbaby28 has conceived, even if the post is from two thousand eleven and Dawn’s just-fertilized egg is now a child of seven.

Equally important is the time you spend clicking on other popular forums and reading vital threads with titles such as - My wife is six months pregnant and hasn’t got her period for six months. Is something wrong with the baby? Or better still - My wife said she was a virgin but it didn’t bleed the first time so is she not a virgin?

It’s important to read these forums because the baby finds them interesting and he might stick around a little while longer if you do.

Since you’re already on the computer you really should google around about what to eat when trying to conceive (TTC if you’ve learned anything by now). Every day you should munch on nuts and beans. If you're really desperate, drag your husband out to an oyster bar to improve his sperm count (it takes two fertile people right??) Babies can be finicky eaters and they’ll only stick around if they get certain things. Especially expensive red raspberry leaf fertility tea. Babies love that.

Be sure to eat double portions of everything because Who knows!!? You might be eating for two!!! Squeeeeeeal! If you do it right, you’ll be ready to eat your way right through your perfectly on time period to feed your increasing depression. Don’t worry you only have to wait two weeks before you try again. And that only feels like forever.

Now that we’re on the subject, your life should definitely be broken into increments of two weeks. Two weeks un-pregnant depression and two weeks definitely it happened this time! That was a pregnancy fart I can tell!

The second two weeks are the two that you must pee on a stick almost every morning and sometimes twice in the afternoon. Even though you told yourself not to, even though you told yourself that one, two, three times is enough. It really is imperative that you keep peeing on sticks until one shows you the result you want. 

The baby loves it when you pee on a stick. He likes taking your hopes and dreams and ripping them away. He loves to make you sad all day after you slump deflated on the bathroom floor next to a plastic urine soaked litmus test. Definitely don’t wait until you miss your period to pee on a stick. It’s important that you get disappointed much sooner than that. Also, keep the pee sticks around all day in case a line appears after a couple hours. That can happen, you know!

When that elusive second line finally appears on the stick you will cry. That’s pretty much a guarantee. Then you really have to start googling about how to keep the baby inside of you. Don’t jump up and down, or ride a bicycle (even though you read that’s okay). Really, you should just stay in bed and eat chocolate covered pistachios (You’re really eating for two now! Even though your husband calculated that you’re actually eating for 1.00003 humans). You enticed the baby with all that eating, you really shouldn't stop now.

Then stay in bed and don’t tell anyone. Realize all at once that nothing has changed even though everything has. Quit drinking, and eat broccoli every day. (Babies love broccoli). Then, feel terrible. Vomit broccoli everywhere. Hunker down for eight weeks of a hangover and wondering why you wanted to do all this in the first place.

Imagine the future. Fall in love. Tell your family. Have a baby. Fall in love again.


Micrometers Thick

You are micrometers thick, falling but not propelled by gravity. Growing in the way that dividing is growing. Like me plus you divided by two equals one.

One family, three souls, two bodies. 

You are micrometers thick, and yet you are all at once connected to us and intact with a world beyond our own. We’ve waited through weeks of curiosity, months of standing idly by, praying each cramp is a sign.

We are waiting. Forever waiting for everyone to arrive.

You are micrometers thick and yet I owe you something. Commitment, fortitude, gratitude. Everything. I owe you a million reasons why we decided to make you but we only have one, my little poppy seed. 

You were missing. 

You are micrometers thick, and yet you have already filled the gaps in our lives, caulked the cracks, and puttied the holes. We overflow now with hope. You are seconds away from nothing.

You are already everything.

You are micrometers thick, and yet everything makes room for you, makes me nauseous, makes me pee all the time. But we’re making room. Me and the ovaries and the intestines and the bladder and the womb. Perhaps that’s how our lives will make space for you. 

Ever opening, forming itself around you.

As for us, we are waiting.

We are googling.

We are becoming.

We are cheap holograms of parents, waiting to be made real.

I'm Back!

So. It's been a year. Well, eleven months. A lot has happened in that year, I got pregnant, birthed a son, started another blog. There was a lot I couldn't write about simply because it took us months to tell everyone (I was five months pregnant by the time we announced it on the internet), and then everything was too real to post. All my feelings were a bit too raw. Plus we were super busy, ya know, preparing for a baby.

I did write, don't get me wrong. I wrote. I just chose not to share it, because sharing requires editing and reliving that emotional state over and over and over again. And I was living it, and I was tired, and I was carrying a giant (okay, tiny) human inside of me all. the. time. 

Now, baby in arms (literally) I'm going back through everything I wrote. I'm tossing out the shit, and bringing you the very best of being pregnant. It might still be shit, but I like it, and I like reliving it. So come on this journey with me. It may be ten posts, it may just be this one. But rest assured there will be more to come. 

I've missed you. I'm Back.

Police Are Friends Not Food

I understand at its outset that an article that seeks to defend police written by someone who is closely related to a police officer can only be seen as biased. ButI used to be one of you. I was inherently afraid of police, I thought they were bullies, fighters, foe. Even though I had been helped by some police officers at harrowing points in my life they were the exceptions to the profession and not the rule. In my years growing up with a cop, I have had to ask my fair share of questions, and the answers were often surprising and always enlightening. What I’ve learned, and what I hope to relate, is that good, helpful police officers are more often the rule.

Why are you writing this

I hope to answer specific questions and address common misunderstandings about this oft-scrutinized profession from a non-cop point of view. I will not seek to defend specific incidents or individuals, although I will comment briefly on media portrayals. One police officer shouldn’t have to represent everyone in their profession, just like one CEO shouldn’t have to represent the actions of all CEOs, or one individual shouldn’t have to represent everyone in their entire race.

I should also say, however, that I am not a police officer, and while this was read and fact checked by one, it is not necessarily endorsed by police officers everywhere. Cops are a diverse group that police a wide range of locale in the United States and what’s true for one department or individual may not be true for another. 

Without further caveat, I invite you to dive into a few common questions, that I and many cops have had to address more than once.

What are cops like?

Think about your workplace for a moment, imagine your high school or a college classroom and think about the people who end up there. If you have worked in multiple places you will begin to notice a pattern in the types of people you find. There are extremely hard workers and lazy do-nothings, there are incompetent bosses and excellent managers, there are aging employees who reject new technology and wizened genius who’s worked in the same place for thirty years. The list goes on. These may be tropes but in broad terms, these types of people found in a variety of professions. A police department has the same colorful smattering of people as your workplace. 

Bureaucracies are largely the same across the board, and the same struggles you run into at your job, are often the same struggles police departments have to face. In the end, it’s a job that you have to clock into and out of. Sometimes you have friends on your shift, sometimes you have annoying coworkers, sometimes your boss is a pain. It’s a job. They’re just people. That’s the reality. 

I thought all cops were bullies, but you seem so nice!

When you say this I want you to remove the word “cops” and just pop in any race you can think of. Doesn’t sound good, does it? There are roughly 900,000 sworn police officers in the United States (according to the National Law Enforcement Memorial Fund, and as a liberal and equal rights activist myself, it makes me a little queasy to put any group of people in one box.

Pretend for a moment you’re tasked with hiring a police officer. You have to train this person which is an investment in classes, training staff, and time (if they’re brand new, the department has to pay a lot of money (100k in California) to vet them and send them to the police academy - depending on the state, all states hire cops differently) so you will want to pick carefully. You have to work along side this person, which means you want someone who is smart and trustworthy, responsible and easy to work with. Consider, as well, the type of person who would best serve society — this is the person who might have to pull a child out of a car after a crash, the person a young woman may have to talk to after she’s raped, the person who has to talk a suicidal man down from a literal ledge. 

You would also want to hire someone who won’t cower away from gangsters, someone who will stand up for weak, someone who won’t crumble under pressure or the sight of a dead body (count me out). You’re basically looking for the kindest, strongest, gentlest, bravest person you can find. I’m not saying every cop is Prince or Princess Charming, but that’s basically your high bar. 

Let’s just say there aren’t a lot of bullies that fit into that box.

Are all cops racist?

See the above note about statements like all “blanks” are “blank.” 

Regardless, let’s address racism briefly. None of us are unaffected by racism. Everyone has assumptions about groups of people based on the media and past experiences. Whether those assumptions are overt or remain internal is up to the individual and what is seen as Okay in their community. 

There’s no arguing the sordid history of racist policing in America. But my guess is that police officers are exactly as racist as their surrounding community and the time period they live in, i.e. the percentage of racist cops in 1950’s Alabama is probably equal to the percentage of racist people in 1950’s Alabama. I personally don’t believe that cops are inherently more racist than the average person just because they’re cops.

Perhaps that simply because police have to interact with a more diverse group of people than the rest of us on a daily basis, and have the power to pass explicit judgment on individuals, the public perceives a higher percentage of racism in cops. Cops have more opportunity to act on racism more, and racist acts by someone with power are more obvious and more detrimental.

That said, cops are still bound by law to deal with the facts. They have to justify every action they take, and those actions need to hold up against defense attorneys and the written law. They also have a ton of training about racism because they understand that we all have biases - and biases plus power is a dangerous combination. I don’t think I’ve ever spent eight hours talking about my latent biases and micro-aggressions. Cops do.

What is it like being a cop every day?

Lot’s of paperwork. Really. Most shifts at most police departments are twelve hours long so beat officers will usually work 3-4 days (or nights) a week. If they arrest someone they’re looking at two to four hours of paperwork. Maybe more if the arrest is complicated. This is precisely why they can’t fit a days work into a standard eight hours.

The type of work is completely dependent on the department. At busier departments, you get in your car and go to call after call. At smaller departments, you drive around and try to find crime until dispatch tells you to respond to an incident that was just reported. In both cases you’ll go to calls and talk to people dealing with a smattering of the following - domestic violence, mental health issues that may require hospitalization, theft and robbery, missing persons, suicides, attempted suicides, rape victims, murders, kidnappings, bomb threats, active shooters, person with a gun, among so many others. These are all events reported by citizens concerned enough to call the police, and these are all possible scenarios that every police officer has to be trained for. 

Sometimes the domestic violence was just a woman heard screaming, sometimes the missing person was just a guy on a bender, sometimes the gunshot was just a firework. But sometimes it’s real, and every call you go to you have to be prepared for anything. 

What about tickets?

Police can only pull someone over if they have violated a law. That means if you run a red light and almost hit a group of pedestrians, you’ll get pulled over. If you have expired registration, you’ll also get pulled over. The more heinous the violation the more likely you’ll get pulled over, but it depends completely on the officer’s discretion. The officer may be on their way to a call that requires their attention more than a red light violation, but, if they’re not, they’ll flip on those lights and sirens. A cops primary concern is keeping the community safe, and sometimes that means giving mild-mannered-you a ticket.

While traffic citations are the primary way that law abiding citizens are going to deal with the police it is not the primary thing that police are doing. Tickets are, for most officers, an ancillary duty that pops up while they’re on the road.

It is annoying for normal people like you and me to get pulled over for rolling through an empty intersection when people are on the road talking on their cell phones and throwing trash out of their window. But remember, those people get tickets too. Wouldn’t it be satisfying to see someone throw trash out of their window, and you flip on your lights and sirens and give them a ticket? Yeah, cops get the same rush.

Remember: Cops trying to keep everyone safe, and sometimes your actions are putting other members of our community at risk.

How do I get out of a ticket?

Cops won’t tell you this as a rule, but I think it's better for everyone to stay on the same page. First, don’t try any of the dumb tricks you read online. Cops know about them and it’s annoying. Your best bet to get out of a ticket is to STAY HUMBLE. Remember: It’s a lot easier to talk yourself into a ticket than out of one. 

Acknowledge that you did something wrong (you probably did) even if you’ve done it a thousand times before and never got a ticket (definitely don’t tell the cop that). Be nice, be remorseful and do exactly what they say. Just because you know you’re unarmed and harmless doesn’t mean the cop knows you are (remember they have to be prepared for anything to go down). If you do get a ticket just accept it, sign it, and show up to court. The judge may reduce your fine, or if the officer doesn’t show up then your ticket will be expunged. 

The way I see it, I probably commit hundreds of traffic violations a year. I may not stop completely at some stop signs, Every time I go to Target I make an illegal left turn, and I have done my fair share of checking my phone while driving and sending that one quick text. Getting a ticket is a good reminder for me to stay safe, to slow down, and stay off my phone. Plus, for all those violations it’s a small price to pay every five to ten years.

Why are cops always at protests, looking so scary? 

Protest organizers often coordinate protests with the police in advance. That’s right, you heard me, cops are asked to be at protests to keep the peace. And since there are usually more protesters than police, they come prepared with helmets and gear in case there’s a mob or a riot.

Sometimes organizers will assemble a number of protesters that would like to be arrested before the events, and discuss this number with the police liaison. More arrests for the protesters mean they get more news coverage. 

Protests are a very political and often organized display, the police are there to protect the community as well as the protesters, and play their role in the political process. Sometimes protests are more organic and simply spring up. In that case, the police show up for the same reasons — To protect the protesters and their right to free speech and to protect the community’s right to enjoy a peaceful public place.

After certain elements are met (depending on location, crowd size, and unruliness), crowds are asked to disperse for the safety of the community, to not block the road, or to free up the park/doorway/lobby for the rest of the community members. If protesters don’t disperse in a timely manner they will get arrested for not obeying a police dispersal order, but usually, protesters are given ample opportunity to leave so that only the people who originally wanted to get arrested will get arrested. That just means they’re put into handcuffs, booked at station, cited and released. 

They won’t even smell a flower, or accept a hug from protesters who are trying to make peace!

Not only is it unprofessional for a cop to interact with protesters in that way, it’s also dangerous. They don’t know if that person wants to grab their gun or put them in a headlock. There could be a sinister substance on the flower, or they could be trying to distract the cops. If there are two sides of the protest, it would be uncouth to show favoritism to one side. When a cop is in a skirmish line like that, interacting with a protester could put them, all their coworkers and the rest of the community in danger. 

I know it feels like they’re dehumanized when you’re all hanging out in a park and a cop won’t interact with you, but understand that this is not the time or place to show police officers your appreciation. It would be like someone shoving a flower in your face while you’re on the diving blocks at a swim meet. You’re focused, you’re vigilant, you’re prepared, and in comes a dangerous distraction. 

If you want to interact with a police officer you can flag them down on the street, or bring something delicious to their department to show your appreciation. A lot of departments have community meet ups where you can go have coffee with officers that patrol your area. Part of a cops job is to connect with community members, so feel free to interact with them. Just not while they’re in a skirmish line, or in the middle of a traffic stop for that matter.

But I saw on TV that video of the cop who…

When these videos of police shootings and use of force incidents go viral usually the video is cut so you only see the action moments. This is understandable, people don’t want to see the boring lead up. But this practice can take the video out of context, and you may not be seeing exactly what the police officer was seeing in that situation. 

Also, consider that sometimes police have to and legally can use force on someone (including shooting them). It’s awful to watch, and way worse to be in that situation, but sometimes the law justifies the actions of the officer if their life is in danger.

If you want to learn more about an incident from a cop’s perspective you can google the name of the incident with the words Tactical Breakdown. These are usually videos made by cops for cops so they can learn from other officers’ experiences. It might help you understand what the police officer was seeing, what they might have been thinking, or how training might affect their decision making. In the end, though, you weren’t there, and there’s no way for anyone to know for certain exactly what happened. 

 Imagine you’re driving your car, and in a split second you see a semi truck careening toward you. In that moment you turn the car left. It’s not really a decision it’s an instinct, a moment you won’t remember even fifteen minutes later. You survive and the truck driver dies, if you had turned right, he would have lived, and your fate is unknown. Now imagine three people are filming this from the side of the road with their cell phones. They go back through your every turn of your wheel, they view every second in slow motion, they make suggestions “If you had just changed lanes a while back you could have avoided the crash altogether.” You’re alive, someone else is dead, and it’s really hard to compile a list of decisions that you made that got you to that point.

Police are well trained to make accurate gut decisions, but the adrenaline, the careening truck, the decision that’s not a decision, the fact that one wrong move could kill you, it’s all the same.

Take police videos with a big grain of salt.

How do I talk to a police officer about important issues?

Be respectful. Don’t use the phrase “Why are all cops blank.” Ask broad questions, and be receptive to what they have to say. Don’t assume anything. If you can help it, try not to ask them about specific incidences with other cops and other departments. You can ask questions related to the incident if you wish to understand it and try to remain open to the answers. Remember cops do so much more than what you see on the news every day. They will show up on your very worst scariest day, and no matter how you feel about police officers, they will be there to help you. Try to be respectful, and understand how painful it must be knowing that you’re putting your life on the line every day to protect a community that thinks you’re the enemy.

Anything else I should know?

If you know a police officer in real life try to understand that you know very little about what they do. If they had to perform CPR on someone who just committed suicide by jumping from building that afternoon, they’re probably not going to bring it up in polite conversation that night at a restaurant with friends. If they were attacked during a traffic stop and had to wrestle someone onto the pavement while trying to keep them from grabbing the knife from their pocket, they’re probably not going to share that anecdote at Christmas dinner. 

Police officers deal with victims more often than criminals, and more problems with the world than solutions. They see the poverty gap first hand, and they see what mental illness can do to those who don’t receive adequate help. They are our first line of defense against bad people, but in the end, they’re not actual superheroes, they’re just people. They’re sworn and trained maybe, but they’re just humans, like you and me, trying their very best to protect other humans.

Abraham's Arc - Part Four

“Nǐ de zuòbiāo shì shénme? Zuòbiāo?”

“What?” Abraham tried to type any of their words into his translator but what came out was gibberish. 

“I.S.S.” Broken english came through the radio.

“Yes. ISS!” he shouted.

“Nǐ de zuòbiāo shì shénme?” Abraham clicked on a link in the app that promised key phrases.

“Màn diǎn” he hurled imperfect Mandarin in their direction ““Màn… Diǎn” He said again more intently, urging them to speak slower.

“Zuò” They spoke each syllable forcefully, Abraham typed it in. “biāo?” He spelled it out phonetically in the dictionary. Nothing came back. He tried a different iteration. 

So byou

Zo biau

Zuo Biao

Then finally without the space

Zuòbiāo pinged -

“Coordinates” Abraham shouted “Zuobiao?” He repeated to confirm.

“Zuobiao.” They verified.

Abraham lunged to the flight deck and searched frantically for the few little numbers that indicated the ISS’s specific location in relation to earth. An impossible feat in space. One that NASA had mastered years before with the invention of the J2000 system. 

“Ten point six two five and forty one point two” Abraham shouted and repeated himself slowly. "Ten… dot… six… two… five… and… four… one… dot… two.” He hoped they knew English numbers, or this would take forever. 

It was an hour before their ship docked with the ISS and three Chinese cosmonauts emerged from the airlock.

One man pulled off his thick white helmet revealing a matte of sweaty hair beneath. He smiled. 

“Abraham.” He pointed at Abraham. “Kang.” He pointed at himself. 

Abraham clasped his hand and shook. “Very nice to meet you” He gushed and proceeded to the other two astronauts with the same enthusiasm as Kang introduced the two women: An and Chun. “I didn’t think I would ever see another human again.”

The three astronauts smiled and nodded politely, but without comprehension. 

Abraham looked around as they hung there, clinging to the walls of the ISS so they wouldn’t float into one another. 

There were just enough berths for all of them, but his food rations were just cut in quarters. Abraham began to count the months they had left. Perhaps even weeks. He considered the eventual nastiness of expelling each of them separately into space as they starved to death. The underlying complications of living the final weeks of your life with three people who didn’t share a common language and did not have enough time to learn it.

“Food?” He asked and indicated eating, opening his mouth and pointing inside it like a child. He was asking if they wanted to eat, but Tong turned into his ship and waved for Abraham to follow. Years of food packets lined the walls of the capsule. It was clear that the Chinese had stuffed as many people and as much food as they could in that capsule as a last ditch effort to save humanity from annihilation. If rationed they might have a decade, maybe more. That was long enough to learn Mandarin. That was long enough for them to learn English. 

    He pulled himself out of the craft and moved back to his computer. He typed into the translator and returned with a grin.

    “So,” he said in Chinese, floating in the center of the space capsule. “What do we do now?”

The End 

Abraham's Arc - Part Three

It was the eighth day, and there was nothing left. 

His food would last him a while, maybe a year or two if he rationed it. But then what? Unless some benevolent alien came along (which didn’t seem likely) he was stuck. Stuck in the tiny ISS until he starved to death. Or worse, was pummeled with space garbage and he and the crickets and kale suffocated in the vacuum of space.

He began to don his space suit. He had decided a few days before that it would be the perfect self-contained casket inside his unholy tomb. He didn’t want to be eaten by crickets in death, and he certainly didn’t want his body to float around endlessly knocking into god-knew-what in the hull of the ship, damaging potential history. If aliens ever did find him, he would be like a mummy. Perfectly preserved. Placed in their museums as a great discovery. MAN. He would have to leave them some sort of note so they would know what to call him. The word NASA on his chest would be their first guess certainly. He pulled off a piece of masking tape and wrote MAN in big sharp letters before sticking it over the red N-A-S-A. He fingered the capsule again and removed it from its packaging before clicking his gloves into place.

He held it up to his mouth and inhaled, one last deep abiding breath.

*     *     *

“Let me tell her.” Abraham had insisted to Alvin once they determined the irrevocable truth of the thing. “I don’t want her to hear from the government. She’ll think something’s wrong.”

“There is something wrong.” Alvin joked wryly. Abraham just nodded.

When he spoke to Abbey later that day he wished he had just let Alvin tell her. He didn’t have the politicians words to say, “You will die, soon. And I will probably live, at least for a bit.” Or better yet the language of the newscasters later that night who could say with certainty and camaraderie that, “we are all in this together. Humanity will die without a breath in the universe, without a fleeting goodbye.” 

“We have achieved great things,” The newscaster would go on to say, “And that, folks, is something to be proud of. We conquered the seas, the stars, we have explored every inch of this planet, and though there is still much to know and much left to achieve, we can be satisfied that we, Humanity, achieved a legacy to be proud of. Take solace in your families, pray to your gods, and be at peace. Now stay tuned for A & E’s presentation of the twenty greatest movies of all time — excluding Armageddon for obvious reasons. Please enjoy this and our display of NASA’s Impact countdown, as we and our entire staff go home to be with our families.”

Abraham didn’t know what the best movie of all time was. He couldn’t soothe his wife with companionship or words of the Dali Lama, or even the solace of a mutual fate. He could only sit there, thousands of miles away and try not to cry.

*     *     *

“Ni hao?” a voice crackled into his helmet. “Zài rènhé rén ma?”

Abraham’s heart leapt. “Ni Hao” he shouted into the radio in his helmet and flung himself toward the cupola to look out the window. He saw nothing. 

 “Hello Hello! This is NASA - Captain Abraham on the ISS.”

Chinese poured out of the radio and Abraham sped back to his computer and began typing text into the translator.

“Nǐ huì shuō yīngyǔ ma?” He shouted the phrase as quick as he could tumbling over the phonetic Mandarin asking a question with an obvious answer. If the recipients of the message could speak English. A long pause met him. A crackle arrived like a spark in the dark, and then nothing. He muddled through the memory of the ancient tongue, one he only knew enough of to get him through Shanghai in his twenties. “Where is the toilet?” - “nǎlǐ yǒu xǐshǒujiān,” “How Much?” - duōshǎo qián, and “which bus should I take” - “Wǒ yīnggāi zuò jǐ lù chē.” Literally nothing that could help him now.

*     *     *

“I can’t believe you won’t be here,” Abbey said when she finally calmed down.

“I wanted to come back, but it’s not safe enough.”

“No, it’s better my love. Better you survive.” She smiled. “I’ll be the only wife who’s mourned. I’ll know the only surviving human in existence.” Then she tucked her chin in her hands and looked up at the screen. “I just won’t have anyone to brag to.” She smiled at the pettiness of it.

“Think you’ll be able to haunt me all the way up here?”

“I’m certainly going to try!” She laughed, and moments later they fell into lugubrious silence. 

“How are you going to tell Jordan? Should we tell her together?” Abraham asked dreading the thought of telling his daughter that she would die.

“Maybe we shouldn’t.” Abbey exhaled heavily and furrowed her brow. “No fear, no anticipation. Maybe that would have been better for all of us.”

“Sorry,” Abraham winced.

“No, I’m glad I heard it from you. I just wonder. Now I have what - thirty hours to anticipate death.”

“Twenty-eight.” Abbey shrugged and pressed her lips together. “Don’t you think she deserves to know?” Abraham asked unsure if he knew the answer himself. 

“She’s two, Abe. She doesn’t deserve any of this.”

They were silent for a moment.

“Will you stay on the line with me? When it happens?”

“Of course.” He said. After that, they hung up. There was nothing else to say. They would save their goodbyes for later.

Abraham's Arc - Part Two

Part Two of Abraham's Arc. For part one click here.

Abraham thought about killing himself right as Earth was hit — trying to time his demise with the rest of civilizations'. But even though Abraham had himself seen NASA’s myriad of simulations using his own data that depicted time and time again the utter annihilation of all things living, and even though Abraham knew that humanity wouldn’t be able to survive even a tenth of the fire and radiation that they would have to endure upon impact, he still felt an impending duty to stick around and just see. The future was a vast uncertainty, and even if the inevitable occurred (he would always say if until the moment of impact) then he would be the only one left to mourn his entire species. And mourn he would.

He sat Shiva for all seven days after the asteroid hit even though he wasn’t raised religious. Always a devotee of science, he now felt compelled to turn to religion for answers in the aftermath. God created the earth in seven days, he recalled, and he would mourn it for that long. He didn’t bathe, he hardly ate, he decided a million times to ingest the cyanide capsule on the eighth day, but then changed his mind a million more.

He spent his days trying to achieve perfect equilibrium floating in the hull of the space station, surrounded by wires and nodules, and closing his eyes. When hours of that became tiresome, Abraham would hover in the observation deck of the Cupola and stare out of its seven windows at what used to be his home.

The blue and green marble swirled with white was now a spherical ashy storm cloud. He could only imagine the devastation beneath it. Even if anyone had survived the initial hit (there was the possibility that boats positioned in the Indian ocean would be far enough away from the blast to survive) they would surely suffocate hours later once the smoke and ash overcame them. In decades, when the dust finally settled anyone who was still around would emerge to a scorched earth. A barren land without vegetation or drinkable water, and it would certainly be centuries more if not millennia before the earth produced a viable habitat again. The reality was that humanity - unless it had a bunker full of generations of food and water and waste disposal - would never make it. And that meant he, humanity’s lone ambassador, would suffer the same fate.

On the eighth day, Abraham returned to his logs. He tapped on the cricket tank and touched the tender cotyledon of the just sprouted Kale. He considered that he might be the Noah’s Arc of this end of days but then smiled to himself. Repopulating the earth with crickets and Kale would be the seven plagues all over again. He tucked himself into his bunk and watched an episode of Law and Order next to a creased picture of Abbey and Jordan. He savored every minute.

If he wasn’t a modern Noah then the ISS was at least a time capsule floating around the dead planet like an omen. One day it would be his tomb and any unlucky life form that became curious about the metal space ship orbiting a dead planet would surely find an over population of crickets, a crop of badly eaten kale, a decomposing human body (perhaps also partially consumed by crickets) and a smattering of humanity’s greatest artistic achievements: Several downloaded language dictionaries that translated any number of International languages to others, one hundred and three episodes of Law and Order: SVU, all the seasons of Lost, The Lethal Weapon series, Ms. Congeniality, The Best of Kenny G, Now! Three, and the entire discography of Ke$ha. 

These were the people who would accompany him through the end of his life - Olivia and John solving serious crimes in a serious city. He wondered if they ever dreamed while filming episode ten season thirteen that this would be the final record of New York. That it would remain the only proof that Manhattan ever existed, that earth ever existed.

He packaged the movie file and beamed it into space. He felt meaningful doing it like he was sending out earth’s obituary. He felt the cyanide capsule in his pocket took it out and considered it.

Stay tuned next week for more of our astronaut's adventures!


C. L. Brenton

Abraham's Arc - Part One

Since the past few weeks have been fraught with disaster I thought a little end of the world saga might be of interest. Enjoy, and try not to let it stress you out!

Watching the world end wasn’t the most important moment in Abraham’s life, but it wasn’t the least significant either. There was the day he met Abbey, the moment he left the atmosphere for the first time, the feeling of holding a person, a brand new person, moments old, and christening them with a name. It was every moment after that when he and Abbey would watch Jordan finger Cheerios and revel at the thought that they together could create the very fingernails and nerve endings needed for such a complex task.

Then there was this. A static video call. Abbey sobbing while Jordan sat in her lap her brow furrowed glancing between Mom and Dad. Tears spilled out of Abraham’s eyes and he wiped them away with his sleeve before they could form bright wayward orbs of saltwater that floated athwart the ISS. He spat I love you’s through the static.

“I love…” Abbey sobbed clutching Jordan harder than ever. And with a flash of white yellow light came the eerie sound of an entire civilization destroyed. Then black. Abraham cried for days.

*  *  *

“We can’t bring you back,” Alvin had told him days earlier after they finalized humanity’s fate. “It’s just too dangerous.” He shook his head and Abraham was unsure if he’d rather be on Alvin’s side of the conversation or his own. At least Alvin would be able to go back to his family and face mortality with them. “We can’t predict your trajectory…” He trailed off. “It’s safer up there. If all our models are accurate.” Alvin tried to smile a comforting smile, but he was unsure if he would rather be in Abrahams place instead of his own.

“I want to come back.” Abraham spoke softly. 

Alvin inhaled and said the only two words that made any sense to him. “I know.” 

Abraham steadied himself and tried to remember his training. Every emergency procedure they had practiced trained him to stay alive in space. What if the aircraft loses pressure? What if a crew member gets sick? What if you have to spend six days in a space suit? His training had provided him tools to survive infinite scenarios, none of which had included the complete annihilation of life on earth.

“We’re going to send up some more supplies, but listen,” Alvin said thoughtfully and knotted his arms across his chest. “If we don’t see you on the other side of this you have permission to use protocol 9022A.”

The if they both knew was almost certainly a when, but there was something comforting about painting the inevitable eludible like if they were strong enough, or patient enough, or smart enough earth could narrowly avoid disaster. But the die had been cast, and though men and women worked tirelessly on grand solutions none of them had worked, and none of them would. 

Now the end held this - Protocol 9022A. Abraham traced the outline of the cyanide capsule in his pocket. One that had been issued on the day he got his space suit. One that had been with him on missions and ISS stays and launches and reentries. One he had never considered ingesting.

“Captains orders?” He asked and Alvin nodded stoic, his lips pursed in a permanent frown.

So Trump won. Now what?

So, Trump was elected. It hurts my heart to even write those words. Trump was elected and now we, the healthcare loving, equal rights touting, environment protecting people are the ones left grossly underrepresented in our government.

We protested. Hell, we’re still protesting. He’s still the president-elect. We have promised not to tolerate legislation that undermines our belief system, but none of that legislation has presented. Besides, our governors and congressmen and women will tackle that for us when the time comes, right?

So what do we do right now?

This is the question I have been struggling with ever since that awful Tuesday. And now that I've finally stopped grieving I think I’ve formulated an answer. 

First: Turn off the news. Just try it for a day it will make you feel better. In the time you save not watching the world burn you can —

Second: Amass a list of the things you most believe in — Do you cherish the environment? Are you a proponent of racial equality? Want women to finally have equal pay? 

Decide what you’re most afraid that a Trump presidency will condone. Then FIGHT IT. 

Environmentalism Starts with You

If you’re afraid Trump is going to reverse legislation that combats climate change, then stop buying individually packaged water bottles. Recycle (it seems like a no-brainer but a lot of people don’t do it). Compost. Reduce your waste (don’t buy tomatoes that come in plastic packaging, return your egg cartons to the farmers market for reuse, use tupperware instead of ziplock bags and wash and reuse the ziplock bags you do consume. Use reusable bags for your produce — those thin plastic bags you get at the farmer’s market are harmful too) landfills produce 30-70 million tons of methane every year and most of that comes from our country. Talk to people about conserving and recycling. Enact change in your neighborhood, volunteer in your local parks, help reforest our country by donating to the Arbor Day foundation, plant a tree in your yard. Any and all of these actions will help. I promise.

Learn more about how you can help the environment every day here. 

Racial Equality

If you’re afraid Trump is going to divide the country by racial lines then stop making racist jokes. You claim to be tolerant but a joke just pops out, everyone thinks it’s funny, right? Wrong. Fight it. Even if you think you’re being facetious (no one would believe that you’re serious right?) Humor like that is racist and it divides us. Stop. And help your racist grandma or uncle or cousin stop too. Check out this Wiki How about how to talk to racist family members. There are a ton of other ways to combat racism that you can enact in your daily life. The main way we can break past division is to embrace each other and to show one another that we’re not that different. 

Women's Rights are Human Rights

If you’re anxious about women’s rights, you can help here too. Not only should you ensure that women in your workplace are receiving equal pay, but you can volunteer at women’s shelters, donate to women’s education funds, buy from organizations that support women, or better yet buy used or American made products since most clothes manufacturing is done by women in third world countries. Donate to Planned Parenthood. Volunteer as an escort at planned parenthood. Stop referring to grown women as girls. Support organizations that are female focused, donate to Women investing in Women foundations, tutor young girls in your community, and be a good role model for the women in your life. This article enumerates the ways we can stop marginalizing women every day.

Say No To Bullying

If you are concerned about the disparagement of anyone or bullying of any kind check out this graphic. Memorize it. It's ostensibly about Islamaphobia, but it could be useful in any situation. It is so easy to do nothing in the face of bullying because we're scared. Now you don’t have to. And you don't even have to confront the attacker.

Am I seeing things or does the bully in the third frame look a LOT like Donald Trump?

Am I seeing things or does the bully in the third frame look a LOT like Donald Trump?


Be the change you wish to see in the world

Pick any one thing that you’re most worried about and google “What can I do to help __________” Schools or prison reform or homelessness or undocumented immigrants. You don’t have to do everything, just one thing, that’s all. In your day-to-day life try to enact change that supports one thing you believe in, one thing you’re worried about, one thing.

Put sticky notes around your house so you don’t forget, sign up for e-mail newsletters, donate, volunteer, change your habits to positively change the world. You don’t have to be the next Mother Theresa or Gandhi, you just need to take the things that you believe in and vote for and want for your children, and figure out how to live them.

If you don't do this, you have no reason to protest when Trump passes damaging legislation.

We can no longer sit by, watch the news and wait for someone else to enact change. We have to live it.

It was Lily Tomlin who said

“I always wondered why somebody didn’t do something about that, then I realized I am somebody.”

If you are afraid what a Trump presidency might do to our country, Good. Be afraid. Now do something. 

The government is a reflection of the American people. They're not going to change the world for us. We have to fight for it first.

If I am lucky enough to have a daughter

If I am lucky enough to have a daughter I will teach her what my mother did not. I will tell her that pretty, smart, and kind are not mutually exclusive. I will tell her that being a woman has its flaws.

If I have a daughter, I will teach her to be strong. I will tell her that kindness is an invitation, that if you are kind to men they will bring you balloons to class, or ask you on dates, or make you feel uncomfortable when they corner you at parties. Be kind anyway.

I will tell her that perfection is not always perfect and that a relationship has its ups and downs but that it should mostly make you feel good. If it doesn’t, you need to reassess why you’re in love. If he tells you you’re too fat, or he’d rather date one of your friends, or he disparages you when his mother visits, or he doesn’t care whether you move away, or if you're happy or if you're sad, then this man has taught you something - he is not worth the time you save on your commute by sleeping over at his house, he is not worth the brief collage of compliments that kept you enamored, he is not worth the dinners he cooks, or the presents he gives. He is not worth you.

When you’re in college and your soccer coach walks you down to your car after a game and tries to kiss you on the lips, turn your head and let it land on your cheek. Be kind, you are both adults after all, and then get in your car and leave. Don’t quit playing soccer. Don’t never go back. He only mistook your kindness and respect for love. 

This will happen a lot when you are kind. A man will write you a love letter, maybe two men you thought were friends. And if they break up with a woman for you, that’s their problem, not yours. Friends will try to be more than friends, and you will lose them. Be kind anyway. 

And when someone says you’re too fat, or too skinny, or your hair is the wrong length or color, or even when your TA says things like “If you weren’t my student…” Try not to give them the power to topple you. Because though they may make existing uncomfortable, though they may make you feel self conscious whenever you see them, and even when you don’t, their superficial jibes cannot insult your intelligence, or your kindness, or your freedom.

That’s why we have to be strong, my love. We can’t fall into their self-loathing trap.

When your professor thinks you can’t hear him and refers to you as the “exceptionally beautiful one,” in a class you’re excelling in. Don’t start cutting class because of him, my sweet. Don’t abandon the entire major. Don’t write it off because it seemed like a compliment, don’t forgive him because it felt harmless enough, and don’t let it slide. Compliments from a teacher sound like this: “Great effort,” “How smart you are!” “You have a lot of talent/potential/chutzpah.” There will be millions of compliments in your life, but they won’t all feel like that. Like someone stripped you naked in a crowded room.

This is when you should stop being kind for kindness sake. This is when you should begin to fight.

When you spend a rare evening in a club, and you faint outside after the first few gulps of a beer that didn’t “taste-quite-right” and the club manager tells you you’re fine — It must have been the music that got to you, it must have been something you ate. Don’t refuse to be seen by a paramedic. Don’t brush it off and go back to the boy who sent you outside by yourself. Do you know how hard it is to tell if a person’s been drugged? The blood tests, the drink samples a lab has to take? The club manager just looked at your tongue, and pronounced you un-roofied. When later you vomit completely sober in the club’s bathroom, don’t blame it on the Ikea meatballs you ate for dinner, or the electronica pounding in the back of your brain. Don’t sign away your right to medical attention, or you will question that night for years after. How hands are supposed to look when they pass you a beer, how friends are supposed to act when you faint (and you never faint) or vomit in the bathroom for fifteen minutes. You’ll think about the long drive home by yourself fuzzy and shaking, you’ll always wonder what could have happened if... if...

I remember once, speaking to someone I considered a mentor about the most lewd thing anyone has ever said to me (let alone at work). He was a friend (do you see the pattern, my sweet?) who made an inappropriate pun about my “box” and what he’d like to put in it.

How should I deal with this, I asked her, how do I respond to these sexist and abusive words. She sort of grinned and asked if I wanted her to speak with him. No, I said.

I wanted an answer, I wanted strength. 

If I were her, my feminist hat would have been on fire. I wouldn’t say, “let’s not make a big deal of this,” I would yell, “that’s unacceptable!” I would reel in righteous and wear a big F on my chest for FEMINISM, and FEMALES, and FUCK YOU.

But I wasn’t a child, and she wasn’t really the hero I was looking for, so we did nothing. She wanted to be liked by men, she thought the big F on her chest would make them lose respect. Maybe it would.

That’s the delicate balance right there, isn’t it, child, we are at war with man but we want men, and we want to be wanted. But when you don’t fight the unacceptable, when you ignore that crunching sound in your chest when their words crumple you, you are condoning it. So you have to fight.

You have to fight for the inside you, the smart, kind, generous you that’s beat to hell every time you’re seen as just a body and breasts. We must fight for other women too, my love, because we know all too well it’s hard enough to fight for ourselves. 

I will tell her all of this so she knows she is not alone, so it won’t turn her stomach when it happens to her. I will tell her this so she won’t recoil, or slink away ashamed. I will tell her so that she might be stronger than us, braver than us, fight back harder than us, so that she might shout "this is not okay!" without feeling embarrassed that it happened to her. Like she invited it, like she's just doing it for the attention.

And if I am lucky enough to have a son, I will tell him this too. Because if we all tell our sons and daughters about the atrocities of living in a world where sex is a commodity, then maybe one day, if they are lucky enough to have daughters they won’t have to worry about being sexual prey. 

Until then, we have to fight, and we have to tell our daughters these stories so they can learn to fight too.

A series about water: #2 of 3

It wasn't always like this

Chalk rings marking years when it was good and we were bad

White like the streaks of cloud across an August sky

Tick mark scars count every abuse on growing red walls 

A scorched blue puddle at their feet.

It wasn’t always like this.


We were young once and powerful too

I swam through you as you ran through me, 

Green scoured your shore,

Luck lined mine

And damn anyone who tried to tame us.


Now your skin is parched gold

Lined and flaking off like scales

You bake in unrelenting sun

While concrete sentries hold you captive

Streaks of opalescent oil fester like a thin veneer

You were fast once,

but now you beat slow,

It wasn’t always like this.


C. L. Brenton


A series about water: #1 of 3

If I were the sea and you were the land, I think we might meet here. Here the fish are all jumpy, and the sun would set beyond your thin frame instead of mine.

And if I were the sea and you were the land we would press into each other, secede and recede and then take it all back. There would be never ending compromise, giving and taking, pushing and pressing, and we would always be touching like lovers, or boxers, entangled in that broken way that people become too entangled. 

Bits of you would tear off into me, sink into me, and bits of me would flood into you. Flow between the islands of your toes, curve into the sheltered bay of your stomach, cover you with a thin film of salt.

Until you couldn’t tell which was actually which. You couldn’t tell mountains from islands or fish soaring through me from pelicans gliding through your sky or valleys from caverns that go deep deep deep into me. 

If I were the sea and you were the land we would always be touching like lovers do and when it rained, I would be the deepest darkest of blues, and you would be wet out of empathy. 

Your quiet would meet my bustling loud. Your stasis moved by my constant change. And if the wind blew over us, you would just shiver but I would roar.

If I were the sea and you were the land, I think we might meet here, where I’m always calm, and you’re always warm, and the fish like to jump as the sun breaks below your thin frame.

And though we are a thousand other creatures on a thousand other days, here we are only two bodies completely entangled.

To my love on our wedding day

I woke up early, too early and I couldn’t get back to sleep because I was so excited to marry him. Sleepless and puffy eyed I crawled out of our bed, careful not to wake him, and boiled water for tea in the kitchen. It was barely dusk, the sun hadn’t turned anything that soft shade of yellow and orange. We were still in the gray hours and when I stepped outside, hot cup of tea and notebook in hand, it was brisk, but not windy. I sat on a swinging bench, my feet curled under my knees and began to write, this is what came out.

One of my socks is inside out and I’m sitting on this bench crying, unprovoked, because I love you so much. And in this moment, despite how tired I am, despite how few hours I’ve had to metabolize last nights beer, I am so happy. An osprey soars overhead and I smile at him, geese honk and I smile at them. The trees are green, the sky and lake are reflecting endless iterations of the same color blue. There is literally no place I would rather be in this moment, wearing my pajamas while you snooze upstairs, watching the world wake up on our wedding day.

I wish I had written more, in fact, in my notebook the last sentence was left unfinished. This is because Justin had woken up, seen me out the window, and ran down to join me on the bench. We took this picture right as the sun was starting to hit the trees.

Though this wasn’t one of my more brilliant pieces, it captures a moment that I’ll always return to when thinking about our wedding. For me, writing moments down creates a stronger more visceral memory than pictures. That’s probably why I’m doing this work. I’m excited to begin again, after a brief vacation, to the job that I love. Thank you, as always for reading.

Motel Room on Route 66

He twitches beside me on the burgundy motel bedspread. We are on the move pressing through time like lovers. Only we are cold and it is dark and it doesn’t feel much warmer with him curled up beside me — his paws running his mind away from something, his muffled barks splashing through his dreams. 

It feels like years ago when I was caught between housewife and house arrest. When my cold body was intertwined with yours, when the ring on my left hand made rainbows on the wall, constantly quantifying your love.

Sometimes at night when we lay in bed studying the glow- in-the-dark stars on the ceiling left by the last people who shared a life in this 1960’s quick build stucco box, I wondered if we were thinking the same thing. Were we heroes for staying? Martyrs? Barreling through fights about curtains that aren’t really about curtains, fights about how to fight, fights about nothing and everything all in the same divisive words. Wasn’t that how every marriage was? One american family, unhappy but stuck together in spite of everything? 

But now we’re not stuck. Now who’s the hero? Which one of us is the martyr? 

Freedom is mauve motel rooms backlit by saccharine street lamps. Freedom is abortions and wide black asphalt, and a double yellow line streaking the space between right and wrong.

Bo’s whiskers flinch as he lies next to me dreaming. Held up in his own mind, trapped inside that body that moves and huffs and regurgitates. He reminds me of someone. The girl we never met. The little tuft of hair, the ball of cells, maybe just a tail and fingernails. But I love her anyways. Even though she has your almond eyes and my unbuttoned nose, even though she’s the epitome of everything thats wrong with us, I stare at the bright dots of tv power buttons and red LED clocks. I pretend they’re glow-in-the-dark stars and I think of her. 

We have been everywhere and still haven’t found it, that’s the problem. We have hiked through tall fat redwoods that teeter stoically above us, we have stood on cliff faces that sway above valleys and we’ve felt nothing. We have slept in cities and townships, and places with no post office. But we still haven’t found it. That life or happiness, or whatever it is we’re looking for. I don’t even know if it’s out here. 

So we let ourselves into motel room after motel room. We look for the ones that say vacancy on the side, we look for the bright lights that scream low low prices. I sneak Bo in, down the same dim halls. I open the same creaky doors into the same musty smell of cigarettes and sex and humanity, and I sit on the bed, I open the window and light one. Not because I’m hooked again, believe me, but because I just want to be a part of this — Those forbidden trysts, those midnight escapes, those endangered loves that once clinked glasses across this queen bed divide. And I think about a life I once had, and a future still so vivid it’s impossible to believe those one-days were wasted for all of this. This nomadic impotence, this rigid sameness that you’re still paying for.

We were like something out of a TV show you and I. We called our love passionate, but ours was a learned romance. We knew how to jab and dodge like Mohammads and Rockies, though we didn’t leave bruises, most of the time. But like our parents we drank ourselves stupid, like our parents we didn’t understand who our real enemy was.

The real shitty part is, I’ve ran thousands of miles away from you, and I still don’t know where we’re going. How do I up and leave this life. How do I run away from running away?

I put out my cigarette and close the window to the dark November night. It’s cold enough here everything freezes. In the morning I’ll have to scrape ice off the windshield of the truck, I’ll have to pray even harder that she starts up. I’ll have to sit there in three layers of jackets waiting for the heat to come on. 

The window thunks closed and Bo stirs, big brown eyes blink sleepy at me.

“What?” I say, but he thumps his tail once and closes his eyes again. I hardly recognize the sound of my voice. It’s old and stale like my mother’s was. Years of cigarette smoke coats consonants with grit. 

I curl up beside him and close my eyes. His breathing reminds me of yours at night, open mouthed and heavy. His heart beat sets the time, a slow dance rhythm, the echo of a base drum. 

Tomorrow we’ll keep running away. We’ll press through time, two souls caught together like lovers. Though we’re not lovers, and it’s still cold even when I curl up next to him and try to fall asleep.